How to Be the Parent and How to Be the Child

Today’s Reading: Psalm 127 and Proverbs 4 – 6

Intelligent people are always ready to learn.
Their ears are open for knowledge.
– Proverbs 18:15

Get all the advice and instruction you can, so you will be wise the rest of your life. – Proverbs 19:20

Remember when you brought your first newborn baby home? I prayed God would teach me how to be a good parent. And then being a parent of a toddler was a whole new experience of calling on God for patience and wisdom. I learned a new level of trust when I dropped my daughter off for her first day of school, or when I let her go on her first date. Then there was the day I handed her keys to the car, or more recently took her for her college visit. Being a parent is an incredible experience, but definitely one that leaves us feeling unequipped and unprepared at times. I am so thankful for godly advice and words of wisdom.

Solomon, son of David, had quite a few words of wisdom for parents and for children in his book of Proverbs. He gives us great advice on how to be the child and how to be the parent – words that never grow useless.

My child, listen when your father corrects you.
Don’t neglect your mother’s instruction.
What you learn from them will crown you with grace and be a chain of honor around your neck
(1:8-9).

My children, listen when your father corrects you.
Pay attention and learn good judgment, for I am giving you good guidance.
Don’t turn away from my instructions.
For I, too, was once my father’s son, tenderly loved as my mother’s only child.

My father taught me,
“Take my words to heart.
Follow my commands, and you will live.
Get wisdom; develop good judgment.
Don’t forget my words or turn away from them.
Don’t turn back on wisdom, for she will protect you.
Love her, and she will guard you.
Getting wisdom is the wisest thing you can do!
And whatever else you do, develop good judgment.
If you prize wisdom, she will make you great.
Embrace her, and she will honor you.
She will place a lovely wreath on your head; she will present you with a beautiful crown.”

My child, listen to me and do as I say, and you will live a long, good life.
I will teach you wisdom’s ways and lead you in straight paths.
When you walk, you won’t be held back; when you run, you won’t stumble.
Take hold of my instructions; don’t let them go.
Guard them, for they are the key to life
(Proverbs 4:1-13).

You will say, “How I hated discipline!
If only I had not ignored all the warnings!
Oh, why didn’t I listen to my teachers?
Why didn’t I pay attention to my instructors?
– Proverbs 5:12-13

My son, obey your father’s commands, and don’t neglect your mother’s instruction.
Keep their words always in your heart.
Tie them around your neck.
When you walk, their counsel will lead you.
When you sleep, they will protect you.
When you wake up, they will advise you.
For their command is a lamp and their instruction a light; their corrective discipline is the way to life
(Proverbs 6:20-23).

Those who spare the rod of discipline hate their children.
Those who love their children care enough to discipline them
(Proverbs 13:24).

Only a fool despises a parent’s discipline; whoever learns from correction is wise (Proverbs 15:5).

Grandchildren are the crowning glory of the aged; parents are the pride of their children (Proverbs 17:6).

A single rebuke does more for a person of understanding than a hundred lashed on the back of a fool (Proverbs 17:10).

Discipline your children while there is hope.
Otherwise you will ruin their lives
(Proverbs 19:18).

Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it (22:6).

A youngster’s heart is filled with foolishness, but physical discipline will drive it far away (Proverbs 22:15).

Don’t fail to discipline your children.
They won’t die if you spank them.
Physical discipline may well save them from death
(Proverbs 23:13-14).

Listen to your father, who gave you life, and don’t despise your mother when she is old.
Get the truth and never sell it; also get wisdom, discipline, and good judgment.
The father of godly children has cause for joy.
What a pleasure to have children who are wise.
So give your father and mother joy!
May she who gave you birth be happy
(Proverbs 23:22-25).

Discipline your children, and they will give you peace of mind and will make your heart glad (Proverbs 29:17).